Monday, April 4, 2016

Divorce #atozchallenge

‘I want a divorce.’

I should have considered this possibility but I was too busy being irrationally hopeful. With no reason to think positively, I decided Angus must have had good news for me. God knows how I need good news, some sunshine: just a glimpse through the ever present brooding clouds. I haven’t done anything wrong and yet I am being punished unpityingly, endlessly. I stare at the nearly empty bottle of Grey Goose on the table in front of me. Beyond it, my children play in the yard: recklessly innocent.

‘Cassy? Are you there?’

- Lovesick chapter 42

I have heard of clean, easy divorces. I know a lady who split with her husband after he decided to upgrade. They were in business together, so with him wanting to move on, and her not wanting to try to hold on to a man who obviously didn’t want her, she took a pragmatic approach: treating the break up as just another business transaction. She asked for some customers to set up her own business, which he gave her. He also continued to send her money each month, either to assuage his guilt, or because…I can’t think of why else he would. To this day, she remains on good terms with her ex.

My feeling is that this kind of amicable divorce is the exception rather than the rule. I am divorced, and I can tell you there was nothing remotely agreeable about it. Still isn’t, now two years later.

Marriages fail for many reasons, and it really is a damn shame that so many people get hurt, but we are all broken people, and we are good at hurting each other.

How long have you been married? Is it the first, second or third even? How's it going?


  1. It's unfortunate that sometimes a relationship doesn't last. But perhaps everything happens for a reason...even divorce. I guess every relationship has something good to just take what was good, bury the bad, let go and move on.

    Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

  2. Good word. As Dr Seuss said, 'Don't cry because its over, smile because it happened." A lot of tears must be shed before you can move on.

  3. I've known plenty of people who've been through a divorce, and it truly can be a nasty experience for many. I'm fortunate enough to be on my first marriage, and this June, we'll have been married for nine years.

    People don't get married expecting to eventually get divorced, but people change and relationships change. We don't always know why. We just have to do the best we can.

    Stormy’s Sidekicks!

    @LGKeltner from
    Writing Off the Edge