Independence can be a good thing of course, and in fact is often seen as an admirable quality and rightly so, but -you knew there was big but coming- independence has a dark side too. Oooooo!
We train our children to be independent. We teach them how to do things by themselves, and praise them when they do. We laud those who achieve things by themselves in various fields of endeavour, and the legendary 'self made man' is a paragon of independence. However, can anybody really achieve anything completely independently? And what attitude of the heart arises from 'Lone Ranger' accomplishments?
Everybody needs a little help sometimes. Some of us more than others, but there is no shame is asking for help when we need it. Even if we don't need help, sometimes it's just nice to work with others rather than alone. Some people are too proud to accept help or even ask for it. That's dumb! We were made for each other, to work together, to help each other, to share our burdens.
The extremely independent cry "I don't need anyone's help. I can do it all myself." I say even if you can, and it's more than likely you can't, why suffer a solo voyage when there are willing shipmates all around you?
Which do you prefer independence or interdependence?