A Bad Example

Whether we like it or not, sometimes other people are watching us. Our words and deeds are being observed and judged. There is a particular need for parents to be aware of the example they are setting for their children. They are more likely to follow the model of behaviour we set rather than obey what we tell them. Confusion arises where there is a disconnect between what we say and what we do. Of course, no one is perfect but that fact does not make the need for caution redundant.

Matchstick Men starring Nicolas Cage was a surprisingly good film, one of his better efforts in my opinion. In the movie he plays a neurotic con man named Roy who is reunited with his long absent 14 year old daughter. Roy struggles to figure out how to be a dad, but before long the relationship between father and daughter blossoms. When he confesses to her what he does for a living, she begs to be taught a trick or two, and despite his initial reluctance, he takes her into his confidence and they work a couple of jobs together.

Roy is asked by his shrink how he feels about introducing his daughter to a life of crime, and eventually he answers that he is both proud and excited. Later, when she asks if she can stay with him on a regular basis, Roy decides to go straight because he realizes that he should set a better example for her.

If you've seen the film, you know the stunning twist in this tale. If you haven't, check it out. And have a think, as I did, about what kind of example you are setting for your children.